*Emotional post alert*
I’ve been mulling over this post for several months now, years even. It’s a topic that I struggle to talk about openly with anyone, even my husband.
*Emotional post alert*
I’ve been mulling over this post for several months now, years even. It’s a topic that I struggle to talk about openly with anyone, even my husband.
We made a trip to Ikea this past Saturday despite the torrential rain (it has been raining for almost 20 hours when we left the house) because I had browsed the Ikea website on Friday and saw some floor cushions that I really liked. So I wanted to check them out in real life. Both ZH and I liked what we saw… I’m glad that we managed to finalize the moodboard for our living room!
The idea for our living room is to create a cozy area for reading, chats and just lounging around. We will not have a TV in the living room because it’s just the 2 of us, so the TV will be placed in smaller room. Some friends have asked me “then what about your guests? How will you entertain them without a TV?” But I find this question illogical. If my guests visit my place and we do not engage in conversation but instead they’re spending time watching TV, then why can’t they head back to their homes and watch TV in their own place?? My home is not a community void deck with free to air TV.
Instead we will have 2 armchairs (blue arrows) and a couple of pouffes (black arrows) and a large floor cushion (red arrow).
The pouffes will also double up as low stools when we need to wear our shoes.
Since we are having tiled flooring, we will probably have to get a rug so that it’s less cold and hard on the ankles when we sit cross legged on the floor. ZH likes something which is soft and more plush. I’m not a fan of such rugs since they tend to trap a lot of dust, BUT since he’s the person in charge of vacuuming the house, he gets to choose what kind of rug he wants. Hahahaha, as long as I don’t have to do his chores, I’m fine.
Ikea has a set of 2 low coffee tables which we really liked (Stockholm), perfect as a centerpiece with all our low pouffes and cushion. However the price… my goodness, it will set us back S$400 for just coffee table… *gulp* I’m not quite sure about that. We will have to take a raincheck on that, shop around when we are back in Singapore and see if we can find anything else we like for cheaper.
As for decor, we will keep the wall simple and just hang an acrylic print of our favorite travel photo we took in Zakynthos last year – a photo of Navagio beach. We both like the photo so much that it’s on our Facebook profiles as well. It just makes us smile everytime we look at it.
We are not investing a lot in carpentry work as I do not like fixed items. My parents did that for our family home and it was always a deterrent when we wanted to change new furniture, do rearrangement of furniture or even to refresh the wall paint. So now, I’m learning from my parents and get loose furniture instead. Knowing how fickle minded I am, and I like to move things around to get a fresh view, loose furniture would be best!
The layout of my master room is a narrow rectangle, leaving us with just a handful of placement options for our bed and wardrobe. As apartment sizes are getting smaller these days, IDs are being creative and offer ‘walk-in wardrobe’ styles to cater to young couples influenced by Western styles. However, these ‘walk-in wardrobes’ are not real walk-ins in the sense that you don’t utilize a whole room for your wardrobe. Instead you position your wardrobe to face an inner wall and your bed will be facing the back of the wardrobe.
One of the contractors I met proposed this to me and I rejected this idea even before he could finish his sentence. The room is already small as it is – what I need is to make the space look bigger, not smaller by building an additional ‘wall’. Besides, if I were to go along with this pseudo walk-in wardrobe, the wardrobe area will not have any daylight, and it means that I will have to position a light in the narrow wardrobe corridor and switch on the lights every time I access that area. I like naturally bright and airy spaces, not artificially lighted areas.
So I was left with only 2 options to place my wardrobe: either against the toilet wall or perpendicular to it. We will be doing 1.8m of carpentry work, and hopefully it will be sufficient. If not, that just means we need to do a KonMari to clear our clothes *can’t stand mess and clutter*.
One thing we both agree on is mirror wardrobe doors. Some old folks may advise against it because of fengshui reasons, but our current bedroom in Bremen has mirror doors facing our bed in a L-shape and we sleep just fine. Having multiple mirror doors also makes our room look bigger and we don’t have to share a teeny mirror when we are getting ready for work/to go out.
If space permits, we will also get a low drawer chest to store our linen and knick knacks. It will also double up as a dresser since I can easily place a mirror on top of it (or save money and just use my wardrobe doors).
I also thought of placing the bed against the window because the space there fits the bed perfectly, leaving 50cm on each side for bedside tables, plus HDB had installed the powerpoints on both sides of those walls – perfect for charging our mobile phones without having to use extension plugs.
However, ZH is quite against the idea… is it really that bad an idea?
This post will be a mish mash of topics since I haven’t blogged in ages and there are so many things on my mind lately.
I’m glad to say I’ve managed to survive 2 years of working and living in a small German village, and finally done with my work contract. However Mr Goh is still not done with his project work, so we will not be able to return home until August 2018. I’ll be a housewife for 8 months, but I’m not complaining at all. In fact, I’m actually happy about it because then I’ll have enough time for myself (I’ve started Psawyer Kitchen!!) and to coordinate with our chosen ID for our house renovations.
Yup, we have finally gotten the keys to our flat and I’m actually still in Singapore as I’m writing this because I wanted to finalize our ID/contractor for our renovations, as well as make a selection on appliances & furniture to purchase. Once the items go on offer, I can ‘activate’ my parents to make a deposit on my behalf to secure the offer prices. Some ‘friendly’ people around me say to just purchase the items when I’m back in September since there are many sale periods in Singapore – BUT why pay more when I can save by planning my purchases properly? The mid-year GSS usually has better deals than smaller sales such as National Day sales etc.
I reckon I’ll be spending a lot of time trawling websites like Taobao and Castlery, making a list of all the items that we will be needing (I have to be mindful of what we already own in Germany and will be shipping back to Singapore, to prevent myself from buying unnecessary multiples).
I don’t mind looking at stuff like washing machines and fridges, but it gives me a headache to compare aircon specifications and lighting. Oh my goodness. My dad is more excited about these stuff than I am, and he is already starting to search on Taobao for lighting, bed frames, sofa etc. Er… thanks dad, but I will not buy bed frames and sofa from Taobao, no matter how cheap they are. I very much prefer to buy such things only after I have seen the actual product and tested it. When I told him my preferences, he got a little huffy and puffy about how ‘rich’ I am now to disregard buying things from China. Gosh… it’s my place, I should be able to make my own decisions on where to get my furniture from right?
At the end of 2017, we learnt that Jonghyun from SHINee committed suicide due to depression. To be honest, I was really shocked (I think everyone who knows Kpop feels the same) and I still cannot believe it. I kept really quiet upon reading the news about his suicide, and tried to wish it was fake news, but more and more articles reporting the funeral surfaced.
I think it was probably about 2 weeks ago that I finally read those articles in detail, I started to binge watch Youtube videos of him performing in the past years (I stopped following Kpop so closely after I met Mr Goh) – so much that I would find myself tearing up when I realised that we won’t be able to see any new performances from him anymore.
He was my favorite member from the group and super talented in so many ways. I remember being so crazy over him/SHINee at the height of my K-pop craze that my dad would even know Ring Ding Dong.
I hope he is at peace now…
Colours wise, it will be light gray cupboards and white walls. I haven’t decided if I want a wooden counter top.
Since our unit does not have a kitchen wall, we have the option of having a kitchen island at where the wall is suppposed to be at, with the cookhob and dining corner incorporated into it. IKEA Bremen has got one nice show kitchen which is exactly what we like!
To try to demarcate the kitchen area, we will go for folding doors. They will be kept open most of the time though as we like open spaces. However, we need the doors for practical reasons such as when we switch on the aircon in the living room as well as keeping the smells in the kitchen when I’m frying fish or something.
If there’s one thing that I’d like to change about this blog, I guess it would be to blog more consistently. It’s always the same for me, I start off the new year making a resolution to blog more frequently and consistently and I do that for maybe 1-2 months and I fall off the bandwagon again. You know, life takes over when you’re busy balancing work and house matters like cooking meals, cleaning the house, doing laundry etc. I think I’ll try something new this round and I hope it works.
Well, well, well… where do I start with this series of posts? So a little background about myself for the new readers: I’m 31 years old this year (2016), and sadly, I am still suffering from acne. When I was younger, I thought that acne is part of puberty and was not too bothered by my pimples. When I entered my teens, I was very active in school and did quite a lot of sports. As far as I can remember, I had uneven skintone due to sun exposure, large pores and blackheads on the nose and occasional pimples when Aunt Flo was visiting, but my skin was still fairly alright. Of course, I was jealous of my other girl friends who still had flawless skin (think fair skin with tiny pores!) despite them going through puberty like me.
When I graduated from high school and went to do my diploma in another school, again I was faced with new friends who somehow possessed fairy-like skins. At this stage, I was 17 years old and started to dabble with makeup. I would apply foundation, powder, blusher, mascara and lipgloss to school. I started to place more emphasis on my skincare since I now use makeup. However, without the proper knowledge on skincare, there were a lot of trials and errors and self-diagnosing. Looking back, my skin started to break out more during this stage, probably because I was not using the right products and not removing my makeup well. I had more pimples (huge ones filled with pus), blackheads and whiteheads. While I know I shouldn’t, I love to squeeze them, causing more problems at the end!
All these while, my mother still maintained “it’s ok to have pimples. It’s all part of puberty”. But my growing phase came, stuck around for a while, and left (I took it that I’m out of puberty when my height stagnated), and I was still suffering from acne. There wasn’t any sign that my acne condition was getting better. In fact, it was getting worse as I got older.
Then I went to Australia for university for 2 years. It was my first time living in a temperate country, and I wasn’t quite sure what to do with my skincare. I mean I was already struggling with attaining good skin when I was in Singapore, what more with the changing seasons in Australia! When I was there, I was introduced to the plethora of skincare and cosmetic brands, and I became obsessed with cosmetics (oh, vain vain me) and really experimenting a lot. Needless to say, all hell broke loose with my skin when those experiments and it was the lowest point of my life where my skin is concerned. I finally decided to seek professional help.
My regret is that I took my condition lightly and did not take steps to educate myself properly. As a result of my low self-esteem caused by my acne, I do not have many photos from my university days (arguably one of the best experiences of my life) because that was when my skin was at its worst. When you look like a sea monster with so many papules on your face, your confidence level takes a hit, you get withdrawn and taking a photo was one of the last things you want to do. After all, why document your acne-filled face? Sigh.
So if you’re young and suffering from acne, and don’t let anyone tell you “oh, you’ll grow out of this phase soon”! It is your skin and your life, and if you find that acne is hurting your self-esteem, take action and seek help before it is too late!
In my next post, I will touch on the solutions I’ve tried, in my long arduous journey for flawless skin.
A few characters in my acne journey that I thought you should ‘know’:
1) My GP: I went to him for help when I was 15, and then again when I was 20. He prescribed doxycycline (antibiotics) and Diane35 (birth control pills), and also did laser treatment for me.
2) Kin Mun clinic: I went to Dr Victor Wee when I was 23. He prescribed Retin-A, AHA and BHA, and also introduced me to light therapy.
3) Dr Valentin Low: He was my mum and my sister’s aesthetics doctor for a period of time. He did IPL treatment for me.
Sometimes I feel that I have a split personality, like how I see myself as an introvert when others see me as an extrovert. I later found out that there is such a thing as Ambivert. I think I’m one of those.
I also have a weird thing when it comes to taking care of myself. I place high emphasis on my skin (because I’m always battling acne. Damn those hormones!), and my hair (I cannot live without my hair conditioner and hair oils/serums), but I often don’t exercise enough thus those dimply thighs and flubber around my waist and hips. Oh, let’s not forget those flabby arms too.
Then we come to my material possessions. I only wash my clothes on the gentle cycle or wool wash if possible. I don’t use the dryer because they shorten the lifespan of my clothes. My bags are placed back into their protective dust bags after use if they originally came in one. My bags are also never placed on the floor (with the exception of my laptop backpack and Longchamp Le Pliage – those two are meant to be abused).
However, I just had a startling revelation that I don’t take care of my shoes at all. Late last week, I noticed that the rubber heels of one of my Maud Frizon flats had worn off, and I was now wearing down the wooden heel structure! I was instantly so upset with myself because I love my Maud Frizons and that is my favorite pair out of the 5 pairs I bought on my honeymoon. I had ZH bring the pair of shoes back to Bremen for repairs (because the cobbler is too far from me in my little town here).
Looking back, I have constantly abused my shoes. Earlier this year, I had to send my winter boots for repairs though they were only 3 months old because of the same problem. The heels had worn out. Previously, I always had to send my heels to the cobbler for repairs because I had worn down the heels so much that the rubber soles were gone and I was wearing down the NAILS in the heel stem. You could hear the nails filing down on the concrete pavement. Ugh.
I should make a routine now, to check on the state of my shoes, to clean them regularly after wear, to show them some loving care and repair them at the first sign of damage before it is too late and cause me some heartbreak. Those shoes will then last longer, I hope.
Do you have any tips to share? Or are you a shoe abuser, like me?
Oh my, I was looking through my Dropbox folder and saw that I have some photos from our May 2015 staycation at Swissotel that have yet to be blogged. This staycation happened directly after our staycation at The Scarlet Hotel. Yup, I planned yet another surprise for Mr Goh and hahaha, my clueless husband is clueless.
After checking out from TSH, we went to Prego for a lunch buffet (which by the way, I thought was severely overpriced and just so-so because I don’t like ala carte buffets). Then I led him to the front desk of Swissotel. *cue surprised face from ZH* Hehehe… Check in was relatively quick, considering how busy the hotel was with the SEA games happening that week.
I had booked a room with Harbour View (paid extra for the view), but there was no view to speak off. My balcony was facing the direction of Funan Centre.
Needless to say, I was hugely disappointed and requested for a change of rooms. The replacement room was much better, though the décor was dated (the first room was in the newer wing, while the second room was in the old wing). The balcony faced the Esplanade and MBS directly and we were lucky to have sunny skies that day. By night, the view was even more mesmerizing as the lights of the buildings painted a different scenery from the day.
The location of Swissotel was unbeatable. We were not into shopping, so we just lazed around in the room and watched TV until dinner time, went to Suntec City for dinner and strolled back to the hotel via City Link and bought some bubble tea and MacDonalds as post-dinner snacks.
However, comparing Swissotel to The Scarlet, I think we both preferred The Scarlet for its unique décor. Swissotel feels like a business hotel to us with standard amenities and no unique touches.
In recent years, I’ve been irked by the above 2 phrases quite frequently. Whenever I post on Facebook like a good deal or some stuff I want to share with my friends, I would have a couple of friends who always like to say things like “I want. Buy for me”.
Now I wouldn’t mind it so much if they meant “could you please help me buy (and I will pay you when you’re back)”, but rather they meant “I want. Buy it for me (as a present for me)”. Say it once or twice, I’ll treat it as a joke (though it’s not even funny in the first place). Now that I find particularly annoying because if you always say things like that, it’s not a joke anymore. And really, are you that poor and that cheapskate to keep requesting for gifts?? Even more so if you’re not posting it as a question, but a statement. Like you’re ordering me to buy it for you as a gift.
I used to be nice and friendly and still reply to such comments, but now I can’t be arsed to do so. I simply just ignore their comments and reply to others. Because if you don’t feed such behaviour, it dies off after a while. I think that’s the best way I can deal with the situation without ruining the friendship.